First, let me start off by saying that this post may be very little about the chiefs. Im looking to get some help from my local APers on a very difficult yet very exciting subject to both my wife and I. We have decided to adopt a little boy from Russia and have just started the process. I'll tell out full story after the jump.
my wife and i grew up in springfield, mo. about 2 and a half hours from the magic that is arrowhead. we were highschool sweethearts that got married at the young age of 20. while it has been difficult at times, we seem to overcome anything that life throws at us. we managed to make it through college with no student loans, bought new cars, payed off loans, saved up some money in our savings all while working at low wage jobs. nothing out of the ordinary here, lots of people do this. my wife graduated with a teaching degree and had a 4.0 gpa. graduated at the top of her class but yet still had time to work a full time job and take care of me (which is another full time job). i on the other hand, couldnt decide on a major, changing from chemistry to accouting then to nursing. i enjoyed them all but never decided on anything in particular. so, tired of working at a restraunt for 6.5 years making no money, i decided to finally step up and be the man of the house. i joined the air force (with much disgust from some family members) and have enjoyed it ever since. we got stationed in Little Rock, AR. about this time last year. bought a house down here and now call this amazing place home. this has all been a whole new process to us and have had to roll with the flow. the military has been great to us thus far. weve made some decent money and thoroughy enjoy the area down here. my wife got her first teaching job down here and has loved in from day one. now, to get to the exciting part.
my wife and i have been trying to expand our family for about 3 years now. after countless doctors visits, medicines, sleepless nights of worry, hours of practicing, and many emotional highs and lows, we found out in december of 2011 that she was pregnant. words cannot describe how excited we were. we'd planned out which room the baby would get, bought a ton of clothes and toys, furniture for the room, and splurged on gender-neutral items for the baby. this is the emotional high.
in mid january, we realized she'd began having complications. without going into details, we lost our baby we'd been trying for so long for. ive never been through anything more difficult in my life. lcuky for me, i was given time off of my new job to be home taking care of my wife and our suffering. we have the greatest family who was able to help us get through that extremely rough time.
after a few months of heartache, things have started to get as close to normal as they'll ever be for us. there will always be a hole, but laughter and enjoyment have started back in our lives. after a couple months without trying for a baby again, we've come to the one conclusion we could come up with. every month, we were going to be stressing about getting pregnant and if we did, would we go through the same problem again? our decision to avoid this problem has been to adopt. we've prayed about this long and hard for a long time asking what direction we were supposed to take our life and our family. the adoption seed was planted in my wife when she was about 12 years old and she'd actually started researching everything then. when everything went on, we periodically brought up the idea of adopting. now, after everything's gone on, we've decided thats the direction god has been sending us.
here's the problem. if we adopt locally, we could be waiting about 3 years to be placed with a child. when we do get to adopt, they do whats called an open adoption, meaning the childs parents can come check on their baby. not a bad idea for some families, but we want a baby we can call our own. so we've decided to go to russia to adopt a boy. obviously, as you can imagine, this is not a cheap process. we are looking at about $50,000 by the time its all said and done. being as were a young couple (one teacher and the other a young military man who doesnt make that kind of money), this is a fortune to us. we do have money saved up but not to that amount.
so this is where ive been lead to AP. we know that some way some how we will get the money. if we have to sell our cars, take out loans, borrow money from family, and drain our savings, we have no problem doing this to add to our much wanted family. my wife, for the first time since early january, has been excited about buying baby clothes and setting up a baby room. the awesome part? he's going to have a chiefs themed room. complete with a DT and Charles jerseys framed on the wall, chiefs bedding, a football field painted on the wall, and tons of chiefs clothes. we're very excited and have been trying to set up fundraisers to help us raise money. after thinking about chiefs things to have for the room, it suddenly hit me. maybe i should ask AP for some help?
heres what we're looking for. fundraiser ideas, donations, or even just positive encouragement. we are very very excited to make a difference in one little boys life and cant tell you what it feels like knowing he's going to make a difference to us. we dont know him yet, know exactly how old he's going to be, or what he looks like, but yet we still have a very strong love for this unknown little boy.
so please, if you have any ideas of help that we can get or someone to talk to, any help is taken! also, my wife made a website where you can read our story again if youd like with a place for a paypal donation spot. thank you so much for taking the time to read this as every encouraging thought means a ton to us. thank you!